Single AF on Valentine’s Day

Yes. Valentine’s Day is coming up. I’m sure you’ve already seen the aisles of pink and red randomness that have crept into your favorite stores that seem to mock your single status. Maybe you’ve walked past and thought “oh gag.” I don’t blame you. I’ve definitely been there myself. But nope, not anymore. It’s time to embrace this day instead of dread it and to do that I have some ideas for you.

Love Yourself: Take yourself out on a date. Buy some candy for yourself. Have a spa day and pamper your body. Buy yourself some flowers. Get that cute necklace you’ve been eyeing or even buy those lacy red panties you’ve wanted and wear them for yourself. Take pictures of yourself in pj’s and look at hose cute you are! It’s a day for love but who says it has to be about loving someone else. You deserve love baby, and self love is THE most important.

Change The Music: Forget the radio and the sappy love ballads. Instead create your own VDay power mix. Get onto Spotify and find the songs that snap you out of a funk. Whether it’s a happy mix, a disney mix that warms your heart, a girl power mix or an anti-love mix go with it and blast it! A couple of personal suggestions to check out would be:

1. Sexy And I Know It – LMFAO
2. Me Too – Meghan Trainor
3. Woman – Kesha (explicit)
4. What Kind of Man – Florence + the Machine
5. Heartbeat – Childish Gambino (explicit)
6. Thunder – Imagine Dragons
7. Since You’re Gone – The Pretty Reckless
8. Centuries – Fall Out Boy
9. Think of You – MS MR (explicit)

Oh Hey, Galentine’s Day: Invite your friends over. Whether you call it a Galentine’s party or a Single’s party, who cares. Invite them over and make heartbreak brownies (brownies in the shape of a heart that has been broken), drink some champagne, blast that mix you made, watch movies (drop the romance movies okay?). Have a photoshoot with props like poop emojis and cheap halloween headstones. Or embrace the “holiday” and do a photoshoot in all your red and pink and hearts glory.

Switch It Up: Rather be alone? That’s totally fine. Binge watch some movies. But switch it up and watch comedies or even horror movies. Sex Education on Netflix is hilarious and racy and only 8 episodes. If you go the horror route try Jennifer’s Body, Ginger Snaps, The Craft and Teeth.

Get Out Of Town: This year Valentine’s Day is on a Thursday. It’s not too late to book an early early trip. You don’t even have to go far. Go to a nearby city or the closest big town. Stay at an inexpensive hotel and go dancing or sight seeing. Go alone or invite a good friend.

Treat Someone Else: Think of this as a way to “pay it forward” and brighten someone else’s day. Pick up a coffee for a stranger. Treat your sister or mom to some flowers. Surprise everyone at work with cute Valentine’s Day cards or small sacks of candy. It’s a great way to get your mind off being alone and it’s the ultimate pick-me-up to see someone else smile.

Matchy Match: I get it. Not everyone wants to celebrate being single. If you really just want to try and find a valentine, put yourself out there and sign up for those last minute match up’s. A lot of cities will host speed dating or singles mixers before Valentine’s Day. Go and make an impression!

Try Something New: This is the perfect time to start a new project, cook that amazing meal you pinned awhile back, learn why people like video games so much, try that new gym, try a new craft, diy a frame for your photo wall, download duolingo and start learning a new language, read that book you bought awhile back, break out the makeup palette you’ve been meaning to use to create the perfect smokey eye, etc.

There’s a lot to do, whether it’s alone or with a group. Embrace the fact that you deserve to be spoiled no matter your relationship status and just have fun. But keep in mind there are a few things that you should avoid as well. No matter how tempting it may seem:

• Stay away from the exes. No calling, texting and definitely don’t facebook stalk. They’re gone for a reason. Let’s keep it at that.
• Don’t drink at home alone. Especially if you’re already feeling down. Alcohol is a downer and increases the feelings of sadness and loneliness. Not to mention that drinking too much at any time isn’t good for you physically either. If you absolutely feel the need to imbibe, invite friends over or go out but please, please, please be careful.
• Stay away from third wheel situations. Go out in a group or even alone, but it’s probably best to not join a couple, even if they are your two best friends. While they mean well, it’s easy to start feeling sad.

Whatever you decide to do, have fun! Enjoy yourself and live it up. What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? What other ideas would you add to this list?

Always,
Lissa xx